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Staying Out of The Dreaded Friend Zone

Wikipedia very accurately defines the friend zone as «a platonic relationship wherein one person wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable or dreaded situation.»

Probably everyone reading this has been in the friend zone before, and some of us are experts at it, many dating gurus included.
Research has shown that often when a woman thinks of a friendship as 100% platonic, the man does not, and that men are more attracted to female friends than vice-versa. More on this here.

Women rarely sleep with male friends. Instead, they become friends with men they sleep with.
Despite the research, or perhaps compounding it, perhaps the biggest reason men fall into the friend zone is because men try to become friends with women they are sexual interested in, and then try to work on a sexual relationship. This simply rarely works.
Why do men do this? Becoming friends is lower risk than expressing sexual interest. Going in for a kiss early (which you MUST DO) runs a higher risk of rejection than «being merely friendly.»

Express Sexual Interest Early

Ask them out quickly. Are you friends doing something together or on a date?
You make it clear as a man, often by going in for a kiss. If she turns away, no big deal, kiss her on the check or neck. You must express that sexual interest early.

Touch

What if you are just talking to woman somewhere? You are not doing something together that could be remotely construed as a date. Maybe you just approached her for example. Expressing overt sexual interest in some situations might be premature if not downright inappropriate yet or even creepy (and in many it will be fine; don’t be a wuss and read on!).
Casual non-sexual touching is called for. Touch her lightly and briefly on the arm as you say something for emphasis for example. Touching conveys sexuality even when done non-sexually. You can pat her on the back. Give her a little hug when you meet. There are lots of things you can do.

Flirt

You need to flirt endlessly.
Flirting communicates sexuality without being overtly sexual.
You can (and should) flirt with just about all women, even women that are not available.
Flirting is easy – see our How To Flirt Guide. Flirting helps establish you as a fun, playful, sexual creature and makes it far less likely you’ll end up in the friend zone

Don’t be Hyper-Available

Friends should always be there for friends. You cannot be always there for her. Being «always available» is not sexy.
I’m not suggesting playing hard to get (although it does work), but if they are suddenly free Tuesday night and looking for someone to hangout with, you cannot be always available.

They want a favor? Well, you might or might not be available.
You cannot always be there for them. You have a life.

Don’t Be a Wuss

You want to run your finger through her hair? Do it. You want to grab her and hug her? Do it. You want to kiss her? Do it.
Any rejection of your moves is better than firmly planting yourself in the friend zone, and if let’s say she doesn’t want you to run your fingers through her hair right now, no big deal.

Getting out of the Friend Zone is difficult if not impossible. Establish yourself as a sexual being early who might be interested in her and avoid it. Following the advice on this site and from other respectable dating resources and the friend zone will be a thing in your distant past!